When parents separate, they may both want sole custody of the children. In past decades, courts across the country favored the mothers in custody cases since mothers were traditionally the primary caregivers. Fortunately, Illinois courts today no longer make custody decisions based on a parent’s gender but rather on what supports the best interests of the children. Yet, it can still be hard for a father to win custody. What follows may be helpful for Illinois fathers who are seeking sole custody.
Be the better parent
The courts seek to determine what will be the best situation for the children. Many times, this means the courts will look at who is the better parent. Fathers who want custody of their children should be actively involved in the children’s lives. Tend to the children’s educational, medical and extracurricular needs. It is also helpful to demonstrate an ability to co-parent and communicate well with the children’s mother.
Never badmouth the other parent
Badmouthing the other parent is never a smart move and often weakens a father’s case in family court. When the father demonizes the mother, it often makes the court think he will also prevent a relationship between the kids and their mom. Courts want both parents to remain in the children’s lives. When a father has full custody, it does not mean it’s okay to freeze out the mother.
Legal assistance
Fathers need to know that court systems have ruled in favor of mothers for years. Obtaining the services of a legal representative who understands the rights of Illinois fathers may be the most important part of winning a custody battle. A knowledgeable family law attorney can provide guidance and advocate for the client’s best interest.